I hate that phrase. It just sounds horrible. Someone recently used that phrase to describe me. They meant it as a compliment....but really, when I hear it, it reminds me of a festering splinter. Not pleasant....at all. I actually looked up the definition of this odd phrase. Apparently, it means "patiently enduring." I guess that's ok. After all, we have been asked to "endure to the end." Another well meaning person once said "I know no one else who is as good at settling as you are." Ya, that wasn't my favorite compliment either.
I think both of these wonderful people were kind of missing the boat all together. I married the man I love. We were married for several years before we hit a major road block. It took some time, and was very painful for both of us. We took the opportunity to forgive each other and build and rebuild our relationship. Since then we have once again enjoyed a happy healthy relationship. OK, that's the condensed version, but what people forget the focus on is the last part. We *are* happy! We got to this point, because we worked at it. We did not give up. Most of all, the atonement of our Savior, which healed our wounds and repaired our hearts. When I look at my husband, I don't see the man who hurt me. In truth I don't think that man even exists any more. When I look at him, I see a man who loves me and I love him.
So many times, I think that people get stuck. They can't or wont let go of past hurts and remember that our Savior suffered for all of our sins and our pain. Everyone! He has already done the work and we don't have to carry that around with us. We don't have to feel all of that pain. So many more people could be happier. Maybe then we wouldn't consider it "long suffering" and just consider it love.
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