Our story

Almost every little girl dreams of finding Prince Charming. They dream of the beautiful dress and beautiful wedding, and then of course....happily ever after. Somewhere along the way you figure out that marriage is hard work and a lot of it. Many marriages fail, creating broken hearts and broken families. When I see this happening, it makes my heart hurt. I believe that families should be forever, that marriage and family should be the thing we work hardest at in life. My parents taught me from a very young age that although marriage was hard, it was also worth putting all of your effort into making it work.

I fell in love with my own Prince Charming 18 years ago. I loved his blue eyes and the way he made me laugh. He made me feel like a princess. He was humble and sweet. We got married almost 17 years ago. We have seven children. Six of our children are living and one son was stillborn. While we had our up and our downs, life as we knew it was pretty good. Then *it* happened. A major road block, one that threatened to destroy our marriage and tear apart our family. Divorce was seriously considered. I wont get into the details of what happened. Those are between my sweet hubby, myself and our Father in Heaven. But I will say, that I have never endured anything more painful. Not even the loss of my child hurt me as much as this experience did. Through all of this experience though, I remembered what my parents had taught me. The thread ran strongly through me that if there was anything worth saving, my family, my marriage was the thing to save.

I can't say that suddenly Hubby and I were on the same page and decided to work things out. Nor can I say that resolution of this issue put us right back on our happily ever after path. I guess the first step for me was a lot of hanging on. Picture that common photo of the adorable kitten hanging on to the end of a rope with his tiny claws. Only, I wasn't adorable. I spent a lot of time crying, a lot of time praying. I am not a pretty cryer. If you ask a few people from my home town, they might tell you I was mentally ill, or extremely depressed. I was niether. It just took every single ounce of energy to keep it together. I also spent much of my time on my knees and praying. I pleaded with my Father in Heaven for myself, for my hubby and for my children. This all happened about five years ago.

Our problems didn't resolve over night. We have had some great turning points, moments when we opened our hearts and minds to each other. We mostly have had some good days and some bad days. Then thhere were a few more good days then bad days. There have been some back slides, that were just as scary and miserable as the first. Five years later I can say without a doubt that it has been worth it to work out the issues in our marriage and we have expirienced so much happiness and joy because of it. Happily ever after isn't just something at the end of fairy tales. It is something that we need to work for every day.

I have hesitated to write this blog. As we have just covered, my marriage has been far from perfect. But I feel strongly we need a place where people can go to recieve love and support in thier marriage.