Femininity

Last night I decided to look for an old friend on facebook. The profile that I thought might be hers did not have a picture, so I clicked on one of her children's profiles to see if I recognized the names. I was shocked and very disturbed by the language, not only of this young girl (about 13 years old) but by her friends as well. In the most recent post she was saying that any boy who disapproved of her swearing "must be gay." A few young men did stand up and express that they had no desire to hear (or read) the litany of cursing. (To which the girls responded with more cursing.)

Another time I read a post from a woman who said that her daughter was an "un-apologetic fart-er," and should she be concerned? I personally have seen several girls who belch or pass gas without embarrassment. When did that become acceptable?

I was so sad to see that these girls did not have a clue that "cursing like a sailor" or belching and passing gas was not helping them. It was hurting them in the eyes of these gentleman. They failed to realize that femininity is attractive, and powerful and beautiful. There is something wonderful about a young lady who behaves like a young lady.

When my daughter was 12 years old, she played on the boys baseball team. The softball options in our community were not good. During one of her first games, some man yelled "Hey, you run like a girl." My cute daughter turned around and said "I am a girl." The very next at bat, she hit a home run. Yes, there are times when we as women need to work the same job as a man. However, we need to remember and to teach our daughters that working and living along side of men does not mean we have to behave like a man. And it certainly doesn't mean it is ok to behave in a way that is far worse. If we want our young men to treat our daughter with respect, our young women need to step up to the plate as well.